Sleep Apnea Treatment

My 2 year old is on a waiting list to have his ears fixed and have his tonsils & adenoids out. He is category 1 and has been waiting for about 6 month. He has so much trouble breathing of a night due to obstructive sleep apnea. It is really heart breaking to watch your 2yo baby stop breathing of a night for up to 2 minutes (you parents would know).
Anyhow to the annoying bit. A friend of mine rings me up yesterday and tells me that she is going to have her tonsils taken out, at the same hospital. She get tonsillitis once a month and smokes. Whoopee Doo!! I hardly see how she should have her tonsils out before they make my baby better. Yes, she has been waiting 12 months, but has nothing more than tonsillitis once a month (caused by her smoking).
Gee I sound bitter don’t I?? But to justify myself, I am sick of seeing my little baby gasping for air of a night.
Would it annoy you?? My man tells me I am being selfish, for thinking this way. Ad I want to see if everyone else thinks his way!!
Thanks sorry if it seems like a bitchy question!! xxxxx