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My husband takes off his CPAP in his sleep.?

Alan — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 12:41:17 +0000

Question by adia88310: My husband takes off his CPAP in his sleep.?
My husband started using his CPAP for severe sleep apnea about a week ago. He has the best of intentions, and really wants this to work out, but as soon as he goes into a deep sleep, he takes his mask off. I tell him to put it back on, and he gets confused or irritated. We’ve been doing this 4-5 times a night, and we are both getting quite frustrated. How do I help him keep his mask on at night????

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Answer by tommyc
Strap it or tape the mask down? Maybe strap his hands down for a few days while sleeping until he gets used to not taking it off and then see if he doesn’t take it off when given the opportunity?

Talk to his doctor, I’m sure they’ve heard everything they can probably help.

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I think my husband may have sleep apnea…?

Alan — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 00:34:33 +0000

Question by justme75: I think my husband may have sleep apnea…?
Here are his symptoms: SNORING, stops breathing at times, night sweats, sore throat, headaches, daytime sleepiness. He can take a nap at anytime during the day! And it only takes him about a minute to fall asleep! He stays up late, and is constantly waking up during the night, too. It’s starting to really affect my sleep! I NEED HELP!

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Answer by Cookie
I’m not sure about the night sweats but the rest sounds like it could be related to sleep apnea. Sleep problems between a couple can make for some real relationship stress. Hopefully, he’s willing to see a doctor about this. He needs to get into a sleep specialist who can diagnose the problem. If it’s sleep apnea, it is treatable. If he’s overweight, it can help if he sheds some of that. You might want to sleep apart for a little while, but he really should get this taken care of regardless so your distress may lead to the butt-kick that he needs to address this. Good luck.

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Husband has sore throat around winter time help!?

Alan — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:37:25 +0000

Question by allie_84_us: Husband has sore throat around winter time help!?
My husband usually gets a severe sore throat around winter time. He went to an urgent care center and they felt he had strep throat. Test came back negative. So of course he’s put on antibiotics to help and a allergy medicine. The doctor said he had no swollen glands in his neck/ throat area but his throat area is extremely red. He went to the doctor a year ago and didn’t know what was wrong with him.
He had croup as a child, I’ve read online it’s extremely rare but he doesn’t have any the horse voice, barking cough etc.
He wasn’t diagnosed for any sinus infection problem either.
Anything come to your mind? I feel he does have sleep apnea. He snores alot and he’s actually at a normal weight for his height. he wakes up congested with a sore throat and is ALWAYS tired.
Any ideas?

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Answer by cowgirl
It could be that in the winter, we have our heaters on and it causes dry skin, itching and even i have a sore dry throat from it. Try using a humidifier next to him all night. I found that it helped me out a lot.

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My husband is 36 and has SEVERE Sleep Apnea. He stops breathing approx. 100x per hour or more…?

Alan — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 00:41:41 +0000

Question by ginadeluca247: My husband is 36 and has SEVERE Sleep Apnea. He stops breathing approx. 100x per hour or more…?
He is a bit overweight but not tremendously (5′9–215lbs)–we have four small children and I am soo afraid that he is going to drop dead of a heart attack. His previous test revealed that out of just under 6 hours of sleep, he stopped breathing for just under 4 of those hours. He is using a CPAP Machine and has been for about 4-5 years–but lately it does not seem to be helping…please help. I can’t bear to see him so exhausted….

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Answer by Mia Bell
Best advice is to notify your doctor of this AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. Sleep Apnea is a very dangerous killer especially for obese persons. The best thing your husband can do, (and I’m saying this out of pure kindness and concern) Is to loose at least 30 pounds. This doesn’t mean gain muscle and lose fat this means lose all fat. Have him go on walks, cut out red meats, fat, soda, beer, and smoking of anykind if he does. Its quite amazing what losing a little bit of weight will do for the human body. Another thing is have a brain scan done on him to make sure that the lack of oxygen to his brain has not caused any damage. Damage to the brain could cause many health problems including (but not limited to) Strokes and Seizures. Best of luck to you and your husband

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Just looking for an outsider’s viewpoint…are my husband and I incompatible/drifting apart?

Alan — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 12:38:26 +0000

Question by Atheist Nun aka GenaneF: Just looking for an outsider’s viewpoint…are my husband and I incompatible/drifting apart?
Or is this normal crap from 5+ years of marriage?

Breif synopsis:

My husband and I have been married for about 5 1/2 years now, and at first, we were so into one another and in love. It seems this novelty wore off when we went through a bout with difficulty conceiving our only child together, about 2 years into the marriage. Things just haven’t been the same since then.

Now I realize we have little in common anymore. From music tastes to food tastes, and all points beyond and in between, we are as far apart as two people could have drifted. I daydream of meeting a man with passion, fire and drive. I feel so tapped out in this “arrangement” with him. I feel like I’m his mother and not his wife. I work part time, and he works full time. But, I do EVERYTHING. And, when I say everything, I mean wipe the baby’s ass, Cook breakfast, cook dinner, cook lunch, dust, mow the grass, clean the floors, do the laundry, arrange appointments for the kids and pets, remember said appointments and keep them, deal with my combat PTSD, handle own my VA appointments and counselings, vaccum, help my son with his homework, shop, pay bills, deal with contractors and basically I parent both kids alone for the most part ( I have an older son from my previous marriage).

I feel like a single parent of three kids instead of a married woman with 2 kids and husband. To his defense, he does have severe back problems and sleep apnea. I don’t expect him to move mountains up in here, just to help me, and do something more than sit on his ass at the computer playing PC games and twiddling his balls soon as he gets home, and/or watching HOUSE or CSI while I scurry about like a little crackhead doing everything. It’s making me so sick. My only true love is gone forever, and his memory haunts me like a ghost…but I just remember that those days are gone. Now I’m stuck with this lazy oaf who makes me so miserable… somedays I just want to run away with all my savings to Canada or Belgium or Japan or something and start over. Then I think about my kids, and it is like a bitter reality. I’m so unhappy.

He doesn’t stimulate my mind. Ever. He is so mundane and predictable and the only things he gets passionate about are WWE wrestling and beer. Ugh. The way he smells even irritates me. I’ve kept myself up while he’s just fell to the wayside and when I try and wear sexy things he’s rather rendez-vous with the Serta and the mink blankets and start calling the hogs. I haven’t got any good rest in years because of his sleep issues and his snoring, even the night I had the baby in the hospital, he slept on the guest pullout and SNORED all night. Ok, now I’m rambling but I’m so at my wits end.

I cry in the shower and bathroom every day almost and probably drink more than I should. I don’t know i something like this can be fixed. What do you think??? Honestly, if I could give my force to another so that they could live, like some poor kid with leukemia whose parents pray for them to recover daily…I would. And I would expire in their place, because my life just sucks so bad. I’m not even scared to die anymore.
Let’s think..you can shove off and troll someone else.
He just (praise the heavens and stars) got a CPAP machine a few days ago, and so far, things are well on that front.

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Answer by Gourmet Flossie
I think that the best outside that could help you would be a therapist, it sound as though you are badly depressed and you need to get right down to the reason of it. I suggest that you go on your own, at least for a few sessions before marriage counselling.

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HELP ME!! My husband has sleep apnea and it drives me crazy in the night!?

Alan — Sun, 04 Dec 2011 12:34:36 +0000

Question by ignitkrit: HELP ME!! My husband has sleep apnea and it drives me crazy in the night!?
My husband has sleep apnea…very badly. His snoring is out of this world LOUD. He’s seen a sleep doctor and has a breathing machine he must wear at night. I know this is uncomfortable for him to wear and a lot of times he doesn’t. So, I’m listening to him snore and getting mad at him for my loss of sleep! Now, I feel really bad for him that he has this condition and has to wear the mask at night. But when he doesn’t wear it he hacks and coughs for hours after he wakes up. It’s not completely selfish of me because I hate to see him suffering like that in the morning. I just am at my wits end. I feel like I’m being mean and nagging when I ask him to wear it and when he doesn’t I ask him to sleep in the other room. What should I do???

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Answer by ebonyluvin32
Tell ur hubby that he could actually die if he dosent use this machine!!!!!! He needs to know that sleep apnea is SERIOUS!!! My hubbys first wife died of this. Ask the doctor if theres any thing else he can do to help this situation. good luck.

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Q&A: How do you deal with a very sick husband?

Alan — Sat, 30 Apr 2011 06:38:30 +0000

Question by jtodd.melody15: How do you deal with a very sick husband?
My husband and I are both 32 years old. Here is a list of his ailments that he has been diagnosed with in the past 2 1/2 years we have been together: prediabetic, hypothyroidism, sleep apnea, tremors, migraines, COPD, asthma, sciatica. Over the weekend we think he had a minor stroke and now his speech is impaired. We have 4 children ages 13, 7, 4 and 1. I love him but I am tired of taking care of him. I have not had a break in years, it is always something with him and I am starting to resent him. Help.
Just to revise this a little bit, don’t tell me I don’t love my husband. I do. We were just released from the hospital today. His family is tired of this and won’t help me and my family is doing all they can. He was electrocuted back in 2002 and has had nothing but problems since. I have been through more than my share of problems with him and have not felt resentment until this point. We have been together since high school. FYI, I have to have surgery that I have put off for over a year so I could take care of him. I cannot digest food correctly and myself am in a great amount of pain and am on a pain management program. (Onset from my pregnancy 2 years ago.) I have had to quit my job to stay home with him. I am currently loosing my home because his unemployment is not near enough to pay the bills. He pays child support and most of the unemployment goes to the ex wife for that. I have already sold jewelry and a vehicle to stay afloat.
And yes think he had a minor stroke the hospital said they couldn’t run an EEG on him until Monday so they sent us home this morning. All other tests came back negative.

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Answer by joe_fleeman
Change his diet, start helping him with physical therapy and exercise.
Ask yourself, if the roles were reversed, would he do this for you?
I know I would.

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My husband has a sleep disorder I am really concerned about him?

Alan — Sat, 09 Apr 2011 06:36:38 +0000

Question by meanersbeaners: My husband has a sleep disorder I am really concerned about him?
My husband works in a high stress environment and completely hates his job. He has worked there for almost two years and makes quite a bit of money before taxes but then after taxes doesn’t bring home a whole lot. Lately it has not only taken a toll on his attitude and mood but his sleep as well. He is off work on the weekend and works during the weekday from 8:00 to 5:00. But on the weekends he gets up between 6:30 and 7:30 in the morning. Last night we both didn’t get to bed until 12:30 and he was up bright and early at 6:30 this morning. I have tried talking to him and he says he just can’t sleep but I can see complete exhaustion in his face and tell he’s tired. What can I do for him? What are the affects of not getting enough sleep?

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Answer by katrina
I don’t think this is even close to a sleep disorder! The man is sleeping…maybe not what you are used to…but many of us get up even earlier and function just fine. With all the stress he is under, he should be thankful he is even sleeping as much as he is. When I get up early…(always..as sleeping in to me is 7am!) I am either doing things to get them out of the way for later, or simply taking time for me! Could be walking in the neighborhood, going to the gym…reading with a cup of coffee..etc.

Has he tried looking for another job? Maybe even considering a diff job will give him some hope/relief so that he can feel less stressed. None of us are stuck…it’s all in our mindset. Finding a few things that are good or ‘ok’ about his current job would be a start and in the meantime start thinking about what he’d enjoy doing more, or if he could change circumstances at his current job, what would they be? Attitude is everything.

Last but not least…some b-vitamins will help with stress…sleep too. Also some calcium aftre dinner…yogurt or whatever he likes can help sooth nervous sytem as well.

Good luck!

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Q&A: My husband is making really weird noises at night?

Alan — Wed, 23 Mar 2011 18:39:53 +0000

Question by Book Worm: My husband is making really weird noises at night?
Occasionally I wake up to my husband making very strange, terrifying noises. I wouldn’t say they were wheezing sounds, but when he breathes in its loud and sounds painful. The first time I heard it I thought it was a cat or a baby crying. I wake him up every time, and he just apologizes and goes back to sleep. He isn’t short of breath, and doesn’t seem to really have any symptoms of Sleep Apnea. What could it be? (He doesn’t have asthma, but he does get allergies sometimes).

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Answer by christophsworld
Your husband would wake up himself if it were asthma symptoms. There are different levels of sleep apnea as well as other sleep disorders. You might him do a sleep study to get an official diagnosis.

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Why does my husband get mad at me when I am sick? How do I make him understand and be more caring?

Alan — Sat, 26 Feb 2011 06:37:00 +0000

Question by sarahmreed: Why does my husband get mad at me when I am sick? How do I make him understand and be more caring?
I wake up 2-3 times a week with a headache due to sinus problems, sleep apnea and stress. I am married and we have two children. My husband and I both work from home; we get along wonderfully and work well together. There are no major problems in our relationship except for me dealing with morning headaches 2-3 times a week. If left to rest and in quiet, the headaches subside in about 30-45 mins.

Now, here’s the problem:

My husband writes for one to one-and-a-half hours daily outside the home, and he’s always anxious to leave the house to go write in the mornings, but some mornings, I wake up with these headaches. I ask him to give me time to feel better and he accuses me of not helping with the kids in the morning. He also gets moody and mad and has an attitude with me and seems to be louder than usual rather than being kinder to me.

I have explained this to him in as many ways as I can and he still does not seem to care that I am in pain and refuses to change how he treats me when I am having these headaches.

What can I do? I am at my wits end.
These are the things I have tried:

* I’ve explained to him that as a stay-at-home mom for nearly 5 years (with him working outside the home for those years) I have dealt with my problems with no help and did so because I had no choice. I said that now he is working from home, too, I should no longer have to suffer through the pain when he is here to help me.

* I have also explained that I deal with the kids by myself while he pursues his writing. Me getting 30-45 mins. in the morning to feel better should go without saying. (He cops a huge attitude with this one.)

* Yelling, which of course does no good; it makes me feel worse.
I have gone to a doctor, and because these are stress related headaches, getting the moments of quiet in the morning is what I need most.

Also, I need surgery to cure the slight apnea I have, but our insurance does not cover it. Again, proper rest is what I need.
Response to T: Why doesn’t he see it from my point of view as well? He deals with chronic pain as well, and when he complains of his pain, I get him his pills, a glass of water, and play quietly with the children. I am asking for 30 extra minutes a day, 3 days a week. While he gets 1.5 hours a day, 7 days a week. And it’s not even “me time,” which I rarely get any of.

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Answer by Emanon
See a doctor. Waking up with headaches two or three times a week is not normal.

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