What To Do About My Husbands Sleep Problem?
Posted by: Alan in Sleep Disorder, tags: About, Husbands, Problem, Sleep, What
My husband & I have been together for close to 4 years now & I’m at my wits end. Every morning since we’ve been married I’ve had to wake my husband up. He doesn’t hear any alarm clock & I have to sprinkle water on him, shake him, & repeatedly call his name to get him to wake up. However, he also holds conversations in his sleep so sometimes I think he’s awake when he really isn’t.
He’ll get VERY grumpy & says hurtful things during these sleep/wake episodes, & he’s shocked when I tell him about it later; he never remembers it, but he’s always deeply regretful and feels terrible about it when I tell him. He is normally a VERY considerate & loving (so PLEASE don’t tell me to leave him; I won’t).
I’ve looked at some sleeping disorder websites & nothing really seems to match; no one even addresses the anger. Does he need to do a sleep study? On the weekends I can just let him wake up on his own & he’s just fine, & he goes to sleep just fine at night too.
Any ideas?
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February 26th, 2010 at 8:51 pm
sleep disorder clinic is a good place to start for sure .
another place you may need to go to is neurology and have him tested there some times this can be related to seizures.
there is still one more thing to try and that is just a regular OTC sleeping pill for a few nights this may alter his sleep state and remove this problem all together.
there are all manner of odd sorts of alarm clocks out there too ones that shake the bed or shake the person all on there own this way you would not be there to get the angry man waking up instead let the special alarm clocks/ vibrators/ contraptions.
i would first try the sleeping pill as long as he is not on any other med if so just check with the pharmacy about the sleeping pill .
February 26th, 2010 at 11:25 pm
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February 27th, 2010 at 5:30 am
He has deep emotions he keeps inside to pretend he is the nice sweet person he really isn’t and when he’s asleep his real emotions come out that are truthful because he keeps them inside too long and he can only express them when he’s asleep.
Good luck!
February 27th, 2010 at 12:08 pm
let him wake up on his own during the week, he is an adult, if he gets into trouble at work for being late then it’s his fault
February 27th, 2010 at 12:29 pm
I’m no doctor but it seems as if he might have a combination of problems that should be addressed by a doctor and a sleep study. Part of his problem may be night terrors.
February 27th, 2010 at 5:37 pm
My husband is the same!!! his brother used to tie string to his leg and the other end to the bedroom door and slam it as children to try and wake him!!
I find the less sleep he has, the easier it is to wake him!! we tend to have about 6 hours a night!
he is getting better though!!!
good luck
February 28th, 2010 at 12:34 am
I would never suggest leaving your husband over this.I would agree with you and ask your Dr. about him going to a sleep study.It sounds to me like he is a real sound sleeper and a sleep talker. Good luck
February 28th, 2010 at 3:50 am
If you can both talk to his doctor, the doc should be able to refer you to the route to take for a sleep study which sounds like a real good idea. The doc needs your input since you are the one that is observing behavior he is unaware of and since it IS bothersome, it’s worth looking into as soon as possible.
GL to you both. ; )
February 28th, 2010 at 4:46 am
He definitely sounds like he has a sleep disorder. Find a sleep clinic that he can go to for assistance.
February 28th, 2010 at 10:26 am
do what mom does. pull the covers away and then throw him off the bed. and leave the room quickly so u won`t hear him bitchin`
February 28th, 2010 at 1:24 pm
He has some kind of sleep problem, not sure what, have him go to a sleep clinic. I wouldn’t think he would mean what he says in his sleep anyway, I’m sure it’s part of the dream state. My friends husband talks in his sleep too but he isn’t that hard to wake up. Must be nice to sleep so soundly I wake up in the middle of the night practically every night.
February 28th, 2010 at 6:49 pm
talk to his doctor about doing a sleep study.he could have sleep apnea or one of many other problems.
February 28th, 2010 at 10:29 pm
Sounds like myself! I set three alarms and I still don’t always wake up. I have had this same problem since I was a young girl.
The things I have found to help are:
1. Go to bed early
2. Drinking intensifies this problem, so lay back on the booz
3. Learn how to wake my own self up so that I am not mean to others. (hence…my 3 alarm clocks–and one of them has 4 different settings)
Bottom line is, you are not his mother. It is about time that he learned how to wake himself up. I am to the point now where I don’t even like to have anyone attempt to wake me..I don’t trust that they will be able to do the job.
Good LUCK!
February 28th, 2010 at 11:04 pm
I think your husband suffers from some form of a sleep disorder. He cannot wake himself up and it must be very frustrating for you to have to act as his alarm clock. I also would express your frustration to him in a nice way, (not when he first wakes up, LOL) and tell him that it is really unfair to you that you have to act like his mother, or alarm clock and that you refuse to do this any longer. I would place the alarm clock on the other side of the bedroom and tell him he will have to get up, turn it off and he should stay up instead of going back to bed and falling asleep.
Good luck!
March 1st, 2010 at 3:11 am
put a wind-up alarm clock inside a frying pan, he’ll wake up