Can a good dad get some advice?
Posted by: Alan in Sleep Apnea Treatment, tags: Advice, Good, Some
Question by Shooting Star: Can a good dad get some advice?
My ex wife is crazy… We were married for 4 years separated for 2 of those years and now we are divorced. In the first two years of marriage we had a daughter.
I have moved on in a relationship, but prior to this relationship my ex and I were on good terms. We were able to have conversations, I would go over and cook have family dinners, cut the grass. After all my daughter still lives in that home so i try to keep up maintenance. I have had girlfriends ( they were black women our age 35) which she knew about while we were separated no problem/no drama at all. ( I pay child support/insurance see my daughter every day I teach at her school, I take her to extra curricular activities pay for them or go half…I am a FULLY INVOLVED IN HER LIFE)
My current girlfriend is really incredible she has changed my life nice attractive 10 years younger, and bi racial black/mexican dating for almost a year She has converted me to be a vegetaraian and I have lost 50 lbs excersise regularly no cholestorl issues, no sleep apnea and more eco friendly. She barely met my daughter and my ex. MY EX WENT CRAZY. She has tried to put a restraining order on me so i can’t see my, but she didn’t succeed. She tells my 4 year old daughter daddy loves his gf more than you, told my 4 year old daddy only thinks bright skin girls are pretty and she tells my family I am a liar, I don’t ever see our daughter, My gf is my only priority, i joined a cult because I am a vegetarian .. NOW when my daughter is with me she eats a vegetarian diet. In both my ex family and i have lots of medical issues related to food/obesity ( my ex is over weight and since this whole drama began she has put on more weight) so why not introduce something healthy to her life… That i am doing a fashion trend dating “outside my race” I am black, ex is black… my g/f is half black…
She is involving everyone in our business… her pastor her parents, our daughter my family she has created fake fb accounts to snoop on gf page..sent messages to her friends and family saying she is a slut that she is on drugs (which she isn’t) I became a member of her chuch which isn’t a cult lol and the thing is my gf doesn’t disturb call text or email her not at all…
o yea I don’t encourage my daughter to watch tv when she is with me because I feel books/ playing outside/ arts and crafts are far better for her brain and my ex thinks its part of a cult because we don’t watch tv really… My daughter goes and tells her mom i don’t let her watch tv… I let her watch movies every now and then but tv is filth now a days
what should i do to help my daughter and i don’t want this to scare my gf away?
She has take me to court to have my g/f blocked the judged denied the claim she didn’t have any basis, then she took me to court to ammend our divorce so she can have any piece of “future Business” judge denied it then she asked for child support raise and for me to pay for daughters college..judge denied it all all this is 4 months!!!!!!!
Best answer:
Answer by SugarCat
It sounds like your ex is jealous of your new gf because she can see what a good affect she is having on you, because you are changing because of her, and because she can see that you are serious about your gf and really in love with her. She might feel threatened.
I’m assuming you’ve tried talking to her. Try again. I do have one new suggestion for you, though. Try talking to HER pastor. You said she’s already talked to him. If you talk to him and he sees you are legitimately trying to be good to her and be a good father, he may be able to talk some sense into her. Perhaps the two of you could even go to see him together. It’s worth a try.
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January 28th, 2012 at 3:24 pm
nothing you can do…..you married a crazy b1tch
January 28th, 2012 at 3:43 pm
now I get it…this new girlfriend is more of a threat than any other girlfriend you have ever had…she has found a way to make you improve yourself and now the ex is very jealous…it happens all the time, as long as you were just with regular humdrum girls you werent making any drastic changes to yourself or your lifestyle, but now…she’s jealous and afraid that you wont do all of the things you use to do and she now realizes that she cant compete at all with this new girlfriend…it sucks when this happens because it hurts the child more than anything else…mom needs to understand that her bitter jealousy is only hurting the child and its about the CHILD not her.
You should keep a journal of the things she says and does all the time, record her, take pictures of things that she does that are wrong and keep that journal…file complaints with the court about her not letting you see the child, if you dont have a courts order for visitation then get one, unless there is a buffer between you two that can stop her from doing what she wants to do, then she is just going to make your life and the life of her child miserable
consider marrying your girlfriend too…the next thing will be that she files a motion to block you from your daughter because you have the girlfriend in the home
January 28th, 2012 at 4:32 pm
She’s overreacting and you know it. I suggest seeing her pastor together, as the poster above me suggested. She doesn’t know it, but the more drama she pumps into the situation, the harder it will be to hold the daughter’s interest later. Ex needs to know.
January 28th, 2012 at 5:21 pm
your X is jealous, you will now face a womans scorn. You must adjust and give your priority to your daughter so that may mean you will have to adjust, you will be critized but hopefully supported by your gf. it will work if your relationship with gf is strong and if she is strong in her own right. your x wife has declared war, you will have to choose your battles during the the next 14 years until your daughter is 18 and can make her own decisions. If you want to win the war , which is maintaining a healthy relationship with your daughter you will have to lose some battles if not most. hopefully your gf will not be lost in one of the battles and that is the main intention of your X.
January 28th, 2012 at 6:07 pm
you are a black family and g.f. is half black? she is jealous.
i think you can only go with it, no judge can make her like your g.f.
let your little girl eat meat if she likes it. btw–your g.f has too much of an influence on your life.
sounds like its all about her.
glad you lost weight,
but meat in moderation is fine. let her enjoy happy meals occasionally.
and there are some kids shows on tv
your g.f. just needs to back down and not allow her priorities affect your daughter.
January 28th, 2012 at 6:29 pm
Ultimately, all you can do is damage control. Make sure your daughter knows how much you love her. She will eventually grow up and see your ex for what she is. ONE crazy b i otch.
January 28th, 2012 at 7:00 pm
Your ex seems to realize that this one might just be hate one that pulls you away from her. She is or has been seeing you on a regular basis, probably thought you would always come back. Bottom line is she is jealous.
Just stick to answering any and all or your daughters questions with truth. She is not stupid just because she is young. Kids know allot more then folks think. She will see that the talk that mom talks about dad is not always true and make her own mind up on what to believe.